Anxiety HEEELP...?

Hi does anybody out there no anything that can kill anxiety, Ive had it for 3yrs now started from a traumatic experiance, Ive tried lots of things but it still controls my life, do you no of any herbal pills that have worked for you, my doctors wont prescribe me diazapam because they say its addictive, but its the only thing that I have found that works for me. So I really neeeed something else that works, ive also tried relaxation techniecs but they dont really help, this is so ruining my life, i cant even work because of it or go out and enjoy things grrrrrrrrrrrr